Betrayal of trust inflicts a pain that cuts deep into the core of our being. ITt doesn’t just sting, but it can poison our other relationships, building walls of protection around our hearts. Jesus knows this feeling all too well. Jesus was betrayed by a kiss.
In Matthew 26:47-51, we witness this betrayal unfold: "The words were barely out of his mouth when Judas (the one from the Twelve) showed up, and with him a gang from the high priests and religious leaders brandishing swords and clubs. The betrayer had worked out a sign with them: 'The one I kiss, that’s the one—seize him.' He went straight to Jesus, greeted him, 'How are you, Rabbi?' and kissed him. Jesus said, 'Friend, why this charade?...'"
The pain intensifies when it's someone you believed would stand by you through thick and thin, only to find them absent when times get tough or caught speaking ill behind your back. The realization that their intentions are not genuine can hit like a ton of bricks.
Proverbs 12:22 reinforces the importance of trustworthiness: “The LORD detests lying lips, but He delights in people who are trustworthy.”
But does this mean we can't trust anyone? No. It means we've been hurt and that pain has made us cautious about whom we allow into our inner circle. Our pain can be deafening, leading us to shut others out and retreat into isolation, breeding bitterness and further disillusionment.
So, how do we discern whom to trust? Practically, we observe their words and actions, looking for congruency. If someone consistently fails to follow through on promises, their trustworthiness is called into question. It takes time for people to reveal their true colors, so we pray for discernment and wisdom.
We also consider whether there's healthy reciprocity in the relationship, whether the person is capable of meeting our needs, and whether any negative patterns persist. And remember, even those with the best intentions can stumble. It's how they handle these missteps and work to repair the relationship that truly reflects the intentions of their heart.
In conclusion, we continue to seek healing and restoration in prayer, knowing that God sees our pain and is ever faithful to bring comfort and renewal to our wounded hearts.
Dear God, in the face of betrayal, our hearts ache with pain. We humbly ask for your healing touch and restoration in our relationships. Minister directly to our wounded hearts, bringing comfort, healing, and wisdom as we navigate the complexities of trust. Amen.
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