"Keep your head low. Don't attract attention. Perform below your full potential so that others don't expect too much from you. Just pretend everything is okay. What's done is in the past, and we don't have to talk about it."
While I fully endorse avoiding drama, setting healthy boundaries, and distancing ourselves from people who stir up unnecessary trouble, sometimes our avoidance tactics can become counterproductive. Avoiding difficult situations doesn't make them disappear; instead, it can prolong our pain and turn it into suffering.
So why do we avoid? Fear, insecurity, fatigue, not knowing what to do or say, discomfort — these are just a few reasons.
In 1 Timothy 3:1-7, leadership qualities are outlined, emphasizing the importance of being well-respected, committed, composed, accessible, hospitable, knowledgeable, self-controlled, and more. Notably, verse 4 mentions handling one's affairs, with the Greek word "προϊστάμενον (proistamenon)" highlighting the importance of establishing a solid character that positively influences others through example.
Being diligent in taking the lead means being intentional and proactive, observing situations, and taking action to address them promptly. Avoidance, on the other hand, allows issues to escalate and go unnoticed.
If you tend to avoid, consider focusing on one area of your life that needs addressing. What's one small step you can take? Who can support you in this journey, and what skills do you need to overcome obstacles? Seek guidance through prayer and trust that God will equip you for the challenges ahead.
Dear God, you understand my thoughts, fears, and comfort levels. Guide me and provide the support I need to move forward. Thank you for your love and understanding. Help me approach challenges with confidence and victory. Amen.
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